Imagine how fed up you must be if you’re willing to risk your child’s humility to save him. That’s what a Tampa mother recently did when she stuck him on a street corner with a sign around his neck saying among other things “GPA 1.22. … Honk if you think I need education.”
Being a fan of tough love myself, I immediately thought “hooray for her!” According to this recent AP story, Ronda Holder says she and the boy’s father have tried everything to get their 15-year-old to shape up academically. They’ve offered help, asked to see homework, grounded, lectured him and confiscated his cell phone. Sound familiar? Apparently, James Mond III’s indifference at a school meeting was the final straw. The following day, Holder made the sign and made her son wear it for nearly four hours.
Yes, she was reported to the Department of Family and Children’s Services and of course experts were highly critical of the move. Holder insists she’s fighting for her child’s education. She’s right of course. The real truth is: she’s fighting for his life. With so much at stake in this fight, the undeniable question is: how can Holder and other engaged parents motivate their young students as a complement to reprimanding them?
There’s much we don’t know about this situation. I’d like to presume James was performing in school at some level before he fell to his current 1.22 status and that he had a level of motivation; however fleeting. I’m curious to know whether his parents understand what motivates him – – what, if anything he’s invested in. I don’t know the basis on which his cell phone was returned. Given his grades ultimately fell to a 1.22, I’d say it was returned prematurely.
We don’t know if “carrots” were offered to James when he climbed himself out of his previous academic performance holes. He had to have, right? After all, he got his phone back. Was he rewarded by word or deed for the increased effort, given an additional carrot on top of the returned phone? We need to expect academic success and then recognize and reward students’ effort, progress and achievement at every juncture along the way.
We all need to be motivated to engage – to be emotionally concerned and invested – in what we want to achieve: do well in school, lose 10 pounds, eat more healthfully, clean out the garage, or learn a new language.
As we all continue to “fight for children’s education” as Rhonda Holder says she is doing, let’s add some carrots to jump-start the intrinsic motivation students need to get in done in the classroom.
After James’ recent experience, perhaps he has newfound sources of motivation to draw on when the work seems uninteresting or he’s just not motivated to work hard. I pray the drastic step his mother felt compelled to take got his attention. I also pray that we add some carrots to the sticks and support our children need to achieve in school and in life.
Click here to view the news story and to hear about James’ story firsthand from his mom’s perspective.